Change MRF logic to match when there is an inReplyTo and the public address is in the "to" field

Update the method to alter the to/cc fields for consistency and modify the tests to work without requiring a specific order items in the list

lib/pleroma/web/activity_pub/mrf/quiet_reply.ex

@@ -29,12 +29,11 @@ defmodule Pleroma.Web.ActivityPub.MRF.QuietReply do
         } = activity
       ) do
     with true <- is_binary(in_reply_to),
-         false <- match?([], cc),
+         true <- Pleroma.Constants.as_public() in to,
          %User{follower_address: followers_collection, local: true} <-
            User.get_by_ap_id(actor) do
       updated_to =
-        to
-        |> Kernel.++([followers_collection])
+        [followers_collection | to]
         |> Kernel.--([Pleroma.Constants.as_public()])
 
       updated_cc =